How to Survive a Bachelor Party
Tip number one is to hold the bachelor party at least a couple of weeks before the wedding day. Why do you think most brides now schedule a rehearsal dinner or welcome party on the wedding eve? It’s to keep the groom and his groomsmen too busy to get into trouble, of course. One couple I know violated this rule, and when the groom stumbled to the altar with bloodshot eyes smelling of the whiskey he and the guys had the night before, the bride very nearly called off the wedding on the spot!
Another important tip for surviving the bachelor party is to be honest with the bride about what is taking place. This is not to say that she wants to hear all the gory details, but if you are doing something that you need to lie about, you have no business doing it in the first place! Besides, sooner or later, she is bound to find out if you went to a strip club instead of to a restaurant. When you are upfront about the general activities which are planned for the bachelor party, the bride will not worry about what you are hiding and why.
Some guys have moved away from the idea that a bachelor party has to be rowdy or debauched. This is especially true for older grooms, who may be less interested in getting their kicks one last time, and who have more sophisticated tastes. There is no rule that the only place to have a bachelor party is a bar or a strip club. Parties in upscale restaurants are very popular these days. Think fine brandy instead of tequila shooters. While everyone is gathered, the groom might want to give the groomsmen gifts to his attendants.
You know that old saying “What happens in Vegas stays in Vegas”? That might well be a good reason to avoid going to Las Vegas for your bachelor weekend! After all, the point of a bachelor party is to enjoy some “guy time”, not wreck the future of your marriage.
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The bachelor party is a very, very old custom, dating back to ancient Sparta. It is also the wedding tradition with the worst reputation, by far! This is a look at bachelor parties not gone wild; in other words, how to have fun without getting into big trouble!
The customary time for the bachelor party was the night before the wedding. It is undoubtedly for this reason that the night before the wedding is now filled up with the rehearsal dinner, which is also a good time to give the groomsmen gifts. If there is one thing that no bride wants, it is for her groom to stagger to the altar after a late night of partying with his buddies. These days, most bachelor parties are held weeks or even months before the wedding, which is a far more sensible arrangement.
Something else that has changed is what is considered acceptable at a bachelor party. The “one last fling” is definitely not okay with modern women! This is not to say that no guys have parties with “exotic dancers” or go to “gentlemen’s clubs”, to use the popular euphemisms, but any guy worth marrying knows that there is a line that should not be crossed. Secrets are sure to cause a fight with the bride-to-be if discovered, so if your friends are going to take you to a raunchy strip club, be upfront about it. If you are nonchalant about it, the bride will know that her fiance can be trusted, even if she disapproves.
Sporting events are one of the most popular kinds of the new-style bachelor party. For some grooms, nothing would beat a laid-back afternoon at the ballpark drinking beers and eating hot dogs with his best buds. Of course, if the groom has a favorite sport or hobby, such as golf or deep sea fishing, his friends could put together a bachelor party based on that activity. It is sure to be a fun outing that the groom will long remember, and as a bonus, it will not get him into trouble with the bride!
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