What to Do About Issues With Bridesmaids’ Appearances
First let it be said that a bride should never choose her attendants based on how they look. That said, it is only natural to want for everyone in your wedding party to look their best. You are going to be looking at those wedding photos for the rest of your life, after all – if you don’t really want your sister’s blue hair to be the first thing that jumps out of the pictures that is understandable. While you cannot ask bridesmaids to change who they are for your wedding, if your sister had brown hair when you invited her to be a bridesmaid and then dyed it blue a month before the big day, it might not be out of line to see if she could dye it back before the wedding. However, if she has always liked unconventional colors for her hair, and her hair was neon pink when you asked her to be a bridesmaid, you really could not say much, because you should have known what to expect.
What about tattoos? Can a bride ask a bridesmaid to cover her tattoos for the wedding? In general, the answer is no, unless they are likely to offend the other guests. Certainly tattoos which have foul language or nudity should be covered up for an event as solemn as a wedding ceremony – blame it on your grandmother’s delicate sensibilities if you have to. If the bridesmaid’s ink is not patently offensive, you can’t really demand that she cover her tattoos – but you can give all of the bridesmaids wraps to wear for your wedding ceremony.
Then there is the matter of piercings. A discreet nose stud is really nothing to get worked up over in this day and age, but more aggressive facial piercings (a chin stud, a big hoop in the eyebrow) may be hard for some brides to handle. I hate to say it, but a bride cannot really demand that her bridesmaids take out all of their piercings to be in her wedding. However, she can get gifts of bridal jewelry for the wedding party and request that her attendants wear them for the day. Maybe the pierced bridesmaid will get the hint that the only jewelry which is really proper for that day is the bridal jewelry you got for your wedding party.
A great way to manage a bridesmaid with a distracting appearance is to work with your photographer instead of discussing it with the bridesmaid. Rather than insist that she change how she looks, consider asking the photographer to position the bridesmaid so her tattoos are less visible. Another idea is to take advantage of all the wonderful things that can be done with Photoshop; you can remove tattoos, make facial piercings magically disappear, even tone down a vivid hair color. It won’t change anything for the wedding day itself, but at least you will be able to enjoy your wedding photographs.
Filed under Bridesmaid Jewelry, Wedding Planning | Tags: bridal jewelry for wedding party, bridesmaid attire, bridesmaid tattoos, bridesmaids | Comment (0)How to Have a Dream Wedding
One bride’s dream is another bride’s nightmare. For every woman who wants to have a Cinderella fairy princess wedding in a castle, there is a city chic gal who gags at the very thought of it. By the same token, for every bride whose idea of the perfect wedding involves a trendy urban loft filled with hip lounge furniture, there is an earthy woman who cannot imagine getting married without the natural beauty of flowers and trees surrounding her. This is why the most important step in designing your dream wedding is to first figure out exactly what a perfect day would look like to you and your fiance, not your mother, and maybe not even Martha Stewart.
With your concept of the perfect wedding day firmly in mind, you can begin to set everything into motion. Begin with your venue, which will be the biggest choice you make for your wedding (other than the groom, of course!). Make sure that it fits in with your vision, in terms of style, size, and location. Be realistic! What if if that picture perfect meadow overlooking a lazy river is soaked with three days’ rainfall? Is that ultra-cool loft in a neighborhood where your grandmother would feel safe walking from her car? It is all too easy to get blinded to potential serious issues with a wedding location when it captures your heart, so be careful about this.
Once you have a venue booked which has the right style, move on to the wedding attire, as this will be the next most important factor in setting the tone for the event. It is extremely helpful to wait to pick your wedding gown until you know where you will be having the ceremony and reception. Certain details will work beautifully with specific types of venues, and when it all comes together harmoniously, the effect will be breathtaking.
Bridesmaid attire and flowers will be the other things which are most important in coordinating your dream wedding. The bridesmaid dresses should in some way complement the style or silhouette of your bridal gown. You can also tie everything together with similar jewelry, such as the tin cup necklace design. The bride can wear a white pearl tin cup necklace and the bridesmaids can wear floating pearl necklaces in a color which look good with the bridesmaid dresses. And then there are the flowers, both for the ceremony and reception. They should be in harmony with the rest of your wedding plans, both in terms of style and color. With all of your details tied together, you will be well on your way to making your vision of a dream wedding come to life.
