Tips on Getting Organized for Your Wedding

Some people are natural born planners, while others…not so much. Whichever your planning style, when you are trying to pull together a wedding, you will have many details which you will need to stay on top of. These are some tips on getting organized for your wedding so that nothing falls through the cracks.

A great wedding planning book is a must for any bride. The timeline tool is one of the most important keys to keeping on track. After all, if you have never planned a wedding before, you may have no idea that you need to order your bridal gown at least six months in advance or that the most popular reception venues often book one to two years in advance. The other really useful thing about a wedding timeline is that it breaks the planning process down into more manageable bites.

Checklists are another key organizational tool that every bride needs. It can be so easy to overlook details when your to-do list is about a mile long. Any good planning book will have checklists for you to fill in once you have finished a task. Bridesmaid gifts selected – check, honeymoon booked – check, programs ordered – check. Keep your checklists organized by setting up a computer program with monthly, weekly, possibly even daily lists. Some of the items on your list will be big picture stuff “hire a caterer”, while others will be more of the little details “remind fiance to buy dress socks”.

You will also want a way to keep all of your wedding materials organized and at your fingertips. If you a bride who actually enjoys sorting and organizing, you will find that a three ring binder is your best friend for wedding planning. Customize it in a way that makes sense to you. Some brides prefer to store most of their wedding planning details electronically. It is a very accurate way to keep track of things like the R.s.v.p.s, due dates for vendor payments, and items which have been ordered along with their delivery dates. Just be sure not to have any photos of your wedding gown in a computer program where your fiance must stumble across them!

The Fine Art of Wedding Etiquette

Sometimes when you first start planning a wedding, the etiquette can seem overwhelming and perhaps even a little bewildering. However, following proper etiquette is a very important part of planning a wedding; it is about much more than style or appearances – good etiquette ensures that everyone feels respected and enjoys the event. This is a look at the fine art of wedding etiquette.

For those who do not know an invitation from an announcement, a great place to start is with one of the soup-to-nuts etiquette book, such as Emily Post’s. A comprehensive etiquette book not only covers things like how to write a proper thank you note, but will offer guidelines about many practical aspects as well. You can learn what sorts of items make appropriate bridesmaid gifts, how many appetizers to order per guest, and the order of the ceremony processional.

It also helps to have an understanding about the reasons behind some of the seemingly arcane bits of wedding etiquette. Why go to the trouble of creating a seating chart for the reception? It is because a good host takes care to put together dinner tables with a mix of people who will enjoy one another’s company and carry on lively conversation.  It also allows the bride and groom to make sure that honored guests, such as parents and grandparents, are assigned seats at the head tables, and it can even allow the bride the chance to try her hand at a little discreet matchmaking among the couple’s single friends.

Another great reason to brush up on your Emily Post is to make sure that you are a) making you guests feel appreciated and b) avoiding causing any offense. This is where thank you notes come into play. Dashing off a few words of personal appreciation on pretty stationery is nothing compared to the effort (not to mention the expense) that goes into shopping for, purchasing, wrapping, and shipping a wedding present. To neglect this most basic bridal duty is to both show a distinct lack of appreciation and to offend the giver at the same time. Knowing the proper etiquette, on the other hand, will make a fine impression on all of your wedding guests…including the friends of your in-laws, who are sure to comment to your mother-in-law about what a thoughtful, polite woman her son was lucky enough to marry.

Planning a Weekend of Wedding Events

For a Saturday wedding, the wedding weekend will likely begin on a Thursday. This is the ideal time for the bride to host a ladies’ luncheon, a lunch which she gives to show her appreciation for her bridesmaids. During the luncheon, the bride will give out the pearl earrings, or whatever gift she selected for her bridesmaids. The ladies’ luncheon is typically held in a nice restaurant, since the last thing the bride needs to be doing the week of her wedding is cooking and hosting a party at her house!

Friday is when things really ramp up. A trip to the beauty salon is usually the first order of business for the ladies in the wedding. This can be a really fun time for the bride, her bridesmaids, and the moms to bond over manis and pedis (and maybe a few Champagne cocktails, if the spa is really posh!). Friday afternoon is the usual time for the wedding rehearsal, and it is important that all hands are on deck for this event. Some couples like to line up an activity to entertain their out-of-town guests on Friday who will not be attending the rehearsal. A sight-seeing tour or trip to a local attraction like a vineyard would be a good choice.

Friday night is the traditional time for the rehearsal dinner. In recent years, some couples have opted to host a wedding welcome dinner instead of a rehearsal dinner. The difference is that the welcome dinner is open to everyone, which can make a lot of sense if a large percentage of your wedding guests will be out-of-towners. The rehearsal dinner or welcome dinner can be as formal or informal as you like. You could rent a yacht and serve a five star meal or have a picnic in a neighborhood park; there is no right or wrong. The only rule of thumb is that you don’t want to have a rehearsal dinner which is more lavish than the wedding reception!

On Saturday will come the wedding ceremony and reception, of course, but that is not all. For ceremonies with a 4pm start time or later, it has become very popular to arrange a group activity to keep people entertained before the wedding. The golf tournament is a particular favorite, although you could choose any activities which you think your friends and family would enjoy. The comes the wedding itself, which is of course, the main event of the weekend.

The final thing to add to your wedding weekend is a post-wedding brunch on Sunday morning. This is always a fun and relaxed event, where guests can see the newlyweds one more time before they head off on their honeymoon. It is really just a great way to cap off a wonderful weekend of wedding fun.

Do Good While Getting Married

Planning a wedding can feel like a charmed time in your life. While you are in the midst of all that bridal bliss, why not find a way to share your good fortune with others? From charitable donations to environmental good deeds to helping animals, there are numerous ways to do good while getting married. Take a look at these suggestions to get ideas that you can use to “pay it forward” as part of your own wedding.

Start with supporting local vendors in your community whenever possible. Get your bridesmaid gifts from the local boutique which handcrafts jewelry right in their back room. Hire an artist to handmake letterpress wedding invitations for you. Order a wonderful blackberry jam from someone at your local farmer’s market. When you do good in this way, it is a win-win situation for your wedding and your community.

Charitable donations are becoming increasingly popular for wedding gifts and favors. Perhaps you already have a house full of stuff; why not request that in lieu of gifts a donation be made in your name at your favorite charity? These gifts can also come from the bride and groom. In lieu of traditional favors, make a donation to a charity. Put out an elegant card at each place setting informing guests that a donation has been made in their name. Just be sure to select a charity which is going to be acceptable to everyone (animals are good, political causes are not).

After the wedding, there will be even more opportunities to do good works. You can donate your wedding gown to Making Memories, a foundation which raises funds for victims of breast cancer. Make arrangements to have surplus food donated to a food shelter at the end of the reception. You can even have your wedding centerpieces delivered to a nursing home to brighten the day of the residents. With so many easy and meaningful ways to make your wedding a time to share your good fortune, it will be simple to find a couple of things that you can do to pay it forward.

Summer Wedding Checklist

Make sure that you have not overlooked anything with this handy summer wedding checklist…

Venues and Wedding Coordinator: This is certainly tops on the list. It is not too late to decide that you want to hire a coordinator just to make sure that the wedding day itself runs smoothly. Definitely be sure that all contracts are signed and delivered for both the ceremony and reception venues, if you have not already done so.

Musicians, Photographer, and Florist: By the early spring, your wedding vendors should be in place. However, you do still have some time to work on specific details. Your florist will certainly need to have your final bouquet and centerpiece selections made a few months in advance so that all the necessary blossoms and supplies can be ordered. However, as long as you have all song requests and a list of desired photographs in to the musicians and photographer a month before the wedding, that should be sufficient.

Caterer and Baker: Good caterers go fast, so hopefully you already have yours booked! Most caterers will want your final menu in a month or two before the event, and then the complete head count within one or two weeks before the reception date.

Transportation, Bridesmaid Gifts, Beauty Appointments: By early spring make sure to have your limos and beauty appointments scheduled. Bridesmaid gifts do not take as long, but why not get that important detail checked off your list now, rather than leave it until things are ultra-busy at the last minute?

Summer Extras: In the summer, especially for an outdoor wedding, be sure to plan for the things which will make the experience pleasant for everyone. That means things like suncreen wipes and possibly insect repellent (either to wear or environmental, like tiki torches and citronella candles), plenty of bottled water to offer guests as they arrive to the ceremony, pretty paper fans (great combo with the wedding programs), and a tent for shade.

With everything checked off of your list, it should be smooth sailing ahead to your summer wedding!

Cute and Affordable Wedding Favors

The wedding favors are a nice way to thank your guests for attending your wedding. Yet they need not be extravagant to be enjoyed, especially when you consider how many of the favors you will need to buy for your entire guest list. These are some great ideas for cute and affordable wedding favors.

Some of the best wedding favors are those which tie in with some other aspect of your plans. Let’s say that you like hearts, and are planning to use them for everything from your bridesmaid gifts (heart shaped crystal pendants make beautiful bridesmaid gifts) to your invitation motif. A very cute idea for the favors is a heart shaped cookie cutter on each place setting. It is something which will reinforce your theme, is romantic, and will cost less than $1 per favor. You can even make your favors do double duty by tying a card with each guest’s name on it to the cookie cutter and laying them on the plates at the dinner tables.

Candy is always a popular wedding favor; the trick is to present in a way that feels original. An adorable idea for a spring wedding would be to get tiny “nests” in which to place the candy. They will look very charming, yet are not costly. Their diminutive size also means that it won’t take a lot of Jordan almonds or chocolates to make the nests look nice and full. It sure beats a circle of tulle holding the candy for originality and style.

Some wedding favors look more expensive than they really are. A bride who has creative abilities could purchase a large quantity of plain bud vases or votive holders and paint them herself. A design which ties in with your wedding theme would be lovely, just be sure it is something that would be attractive for everyday use. In other words, a clear vase handpainted with morning glories would be very pretty and thoughtful, but one personalized with your initials and wedding date would not be something your guests would be likely to use in their homes. The possibilities are nearly endless, and remember that great wedding favors do not have to be costly or extravagant to be appreciated by your guests.

Quiz: How Should Bridesmaids Be Treated?

Every bride has bridesmaids, but not every bride has the same reputation amongst her bridal party. Some are called bridezilla behind their backs, while other brides are known as being gracious. Take this quiz to find out if you know how you should treat your bridesmaids.

1. The main purpose of bridesmaids is:

   a. to lend support to the bride and to help her celebrate a joyous occasion in her life

   b. to run errands, throw parties, and generally be at the bride’s beck and call for a year

   c. who knows?

2. True or false: bridesmaids are obligated to throw the bride a bridal shower and a bachelorette party.

3. The bride should show her appreciation for her attendants in the following way:

   a. by asking as little of them as possible

   b. giving them thoughtful bridesmaid gifts, such as jewelry or engraved silver items

   c. bridesmaid gifts? The honor of being in my wedding is all the gift any bridesmaid needs!

4. If one of my former bridesmaids asked me to be in her wedding, I would be:

   a. delighted! I can’t wait to help my friend as much as she helped me with my wedding.

   b. irritated; why should I spend all that time and money being in a wedding?

   c. terrified! Did she invite me just to get revenge for the way I acted when she was my bridesmaid?

Answers:

1.a. Bridesmaid should be there to help the bride with minor wedding planning as their schedules allow, but their main purpose is just to be there in friendship for the bride on her wedding day. Far too many brides forget that bridesmaids are not their indentured servants!

2.False. Bridesmaids are under no obligation to throw any parties for the bride. It is true that bridesmaids will often get together to plan a shower, but they certainly do not have to, and the bride should never tell them to give her a party.

3.b. Show your bridesmaids how much you appreciate them with thoughtful bridesmaid gifts! Items with lasting value like jewelry or picture frames tend to be among the most popular gift ideas. Although it is kind to ask little of your attendants, it is not enough of a gift. And no, being in your wedding is not such a high honor that a proper present becomes unnecessary.

4. a. Of course you should be happy to get to return the favor when a former bridesmaid comes to you! After all, she is probably relying on the experience of a friend who is already married to help her figure out how to plan her wedding. It is not so nice to be irritated by a friend’s attempt to honor your friendship by inviting you to be in her wedding. For those who chose c, if you were such a bridezilla that you fear retribution, well…turnabout is fair play!

Avoid Wedding Drama

Weddings are exciting and emotionally charged. It seems like all too often, what should be the happiest time in a bride’s life ends up full of conflict with her family and friends. To help you avoid wedding drama before it even starts, put these tips to work for you.

Choose Your Bridal Party Carefully. Okay, if you have any sisters, they will pretty much need to be bridesmaids no matter what, but beyond that, take some time to carefully consider whom you would like to have in your bridal party. For goodness sake, don’t pick your bridesmaids based on how pretty they are or other superficial standards! Choose your bridesmaids based on their character and the genuine affection you have for them.

Involve Your Mother-in-Law. The overbearing mother-in-law is a legendary creature, one that is sometimes based on fact. If you think your fiance’s mother is going to meddle in your wedding planning and drive you crazy, make a preemptive strike. Ask her for assistance in some minor areas of the wedding, such as picking out favors and bridesmaid gifts. If she has a defined role, she will feel useful, and be much more likely to try to take over the entire event.

Be Realistic About Your Budget. No one wants to start off their married life mired in debt, nor should the bride’s family be forced to spend more than they can possibly afford. A large percentage of wedding disagreements center around money, so if you have your finances in order from the beginning, you will find there is much less to fight about. One important thing to keep in mind is that anyone who is contributing to the wedding expenses can realistically expect to have a say in how the money is spent.

Be Equitable About the Guest List. After money, the guest list is one of the biggest potential fights that a bride and groom have with their families. One way to keep things fair is to determine the number of guests whom you can afford to host, and then divide it up into equal sections. Usually, 1/3 of the list goes to the bride’s parents, another 1/3 to the groom’s parents, and the last 1/3 to the bride and groom. Whatever you do, please do not make the number of guests someone is allotted dependent on their financial contribution.  Being fair is the gracious thing to do, and it will help to nip those nasty guest list fights in the bud.

Non-Traditional Bridal Showers

The traditional bridal shower is a timeless wedding custom. Yet, it is certainly not the only way that a bride and her bridesmaids can spend quality time together. When the bride does not want a shower or a classic bridal shower just does not seem to fit the situation, there are plenty of other great options. These are some fun ideas for non-traditional bridal showers.

A spa retreat is a great alternative gathering. All of the ladies involved in the wedding can spend an afternoon together at a fancy day spa getting pampered. Pedicures with cocktails, lots of chit chat, and good times are on the agenda. This can be a wonderful way for the bridal party to relax and unwind before the wedding. If gifts will be given, they can be presented to the bride at the end of the pampering.  By the way, brides, a spa day can also be a great time for you to give your bridesmaid gifts to your attendants, especially if it is an event for only the members of the wedding party.

A night out in the big city can be a really fun gathering instead of a bridal shower. This would be particularly nice for a second time bride, for whom her friends want to do something special that does not involve gifts. Take the bride out to a dinner in a trendy restaurant, and follow it up with either tickets to the hottest play in town or a night of hitting the dance clubs, depending on which she would enjoy more. For out of towners, think about renting a few hotel rooms to share and staying the night so you can have a leisurely brunch and do some shopping the next day.

Non-traditional bridal showers can also be tailored to the bride’s hobbies or interests. Perhaps the bride loves quilting. Why not get everyone together for a fun old-fashioned quilting bee? Each person can work on one square at the party, and at the end the bride gets to keep all of the squares to stitch into a one-of-a-kind keepsake quilt. The quilt would be a marvelous alternative to regular shower gifts, especially for the bride who already has all of the basic household goods. A special event, tailored to her interests, is a wonderful way to show the bride how much everyone cares for her.

Top Bridesmaid Gifts for Winter Weddings

Looking for some great ideas for your bridesmaid gifts? Well, look no further! These are the top bridesmaid gifts for winter weddings, any of which your bridesmaids will surely be delighted to receive.

A tin cup necklace. Why are these beautiful necklaces one of the best bridesmaid gifts? Simple, because they are a true classic that is always in style, in any season and for any style of wedding. The floating pearls on a tin cup necklace make them so airy and feminine that they are a natural to pair with your favorite bridesmaid dress style. For every woman in your bridal party, a tin cup necklace makes a fantastic gift!

Swarovski crystal necklaces. Winter weddings are often very elegant, and nothing adds glamor like the sparkle of genuine crystal. You can customize the Swarovski crystal necklaces for your bridesmaid gifts in your wedding colors. Or choose a dramatic color such as rich garnet to add intensity to a bridesmaid dress in one of the neutral shades that are in vogue this season. Clear crystal Swarovski necklaces are fabulous for that icy “Winter Wonderland” effect.

Snowflake theme bridesmaid jewelry. How beautiful will your bridesmaids look and feel in gorgeous crystal snowflake earrings? It is a stunning style that is festive and cheery for a winter wedding. Another idea is to use a Swarovski crystal snowflake on a simple pendant for a piece that is sure to dazzle the recipient. For your flower girls, a small silver snowflake charm for her charm bracelet would make a lovely gift idea.

These ideas are fantastic for winter wedding bridesmaid gifts. Some celebrate the winter season, while others are great for any season; what they have in common is that all are heartfelt expressions of your appreciation.