A Good Marriage is the Best Revenge

April 29th, 2009

Most marriages begin with a loving relationship between the bride and groom, but unfortunately, such a warm relationship is not always a given between the nearlyweds and their future in-laws. Family harmony will certainly help to bring more joy to your marriage, so it is always a worthwhile goal. Even if you cannot achieve it at first, it is worth putting the time and effort into it. And along the way, always remember that a good marriage is the best revenge!

There can be a variety of reasons why a young man or woman’s family may not welcome their intended with open arms. Sometimes there are cultural or religious differences which may seem insurmountable to the older generation, but are of no importance to the bride and groom. In this case, the best way to overcome objections is by assuring your parents that your choice to marry a person from a different faith or heritage is in no way a rejection of their beliefs or how you were raised.

Sometimes family disapproval is based on less clear concerns. Perhaps the groom was very nervous the first time he met the bride’s parents and made a fool of himself. Or maybe the groom’s parents have the impression that the bride is self-centered or too high maintenance. Oftentimes these misunderstandings are based on not knowing the person well enough to see all of their wonderful qualities. It is up to each person to tell their own parents all about the special things that made them want to spend the rest of your life with their intended.

A gracious gesture can often go a long way towards getting family relationships headed down a better path. Maybe your mother-in-law loves flowers, and she would love to help you design your centerpieces. So what if her taste is not exactly like yours? Accepting her input and maybe even taking a few of her suggestions will make her feel valued.

Another nice idea is to give your future mother-in-law a gift of wedding jewelry from the bride and groom. Jewelry along the lines of a strand of pearls would be a very thoughtful gift that she will love to have as a momento of your wedding. And take heart, as your families see how happy your marriage makes you, eventually they will come to see the good in your spouse that you knew was there all along.

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Are You Ready to Get Married?

June 23rd, 2008

Marriage is a very special thing, but it is not something that should be jumped into blindly. It is all too easy to get swept up in the romance of it all and get married either to the wrong person, or to the right person before you are ready.

Consider waiting if:

  • You are too young to drink at your wedding.
  • You think that butterfly tattoos make awesome bridesmaid gifts (they don’t – stick to something that won’t look ridiculous in ten years, like classic pearl jewelry).
  • Your mom has to tell you to take the gum out of your mouth before walking down the aisle.
  • You are getting married to escape your parents’ house.
  • You think that your marriage will be as perfect as the ones in the movies.

Marriage is wonderful if both people have an understanding of its meaning. The commitment to your relationship will deepen your love and strengthen your bond with your spouse. There is also a feeling of security that comes with marriage, as well as the pleasure of becoming part of a new family (hopefully you get along well with your in-laws!).

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