Dealing with Wedding Disagreements

December 19th, 2009

It is inevitable when planning a wedding that disagreements are going to arise between the bride and her mother. Here are some tips to help brides deal with common wedding disagreements.

Scenario No. 1: You and your friends all love a great party and your mom thinks drinking is wrong.  This is an area where sometimes a middle ground can be found between the two sides. Maybe your mom is worried less about people having a glass of Champagne for toasting and more about the younger generation getting drunk and rowdy. Perhaps you can agree that only wine will be served at the reception, and then the newlyweds and their friends can have an afterparty later.  Of course, if your mom is paying for the wedding and insists on an absolute ban on alcohol, there is not too much you can do about it.

Scenario No. 2: Your mom wants to see you wear a traditional long sleeve wedding gown with her strand of pearls. You imagine yourself in a trendy one-shoulder dress with modern crystal bridal jewelry. There can be some ways to appease a traditional mom. For instance, you might agree to wear the modern dress with a little jacket for the ceremony.  Do your best to make your mom feel respected, but also make sure that when you put on your entire wedding ensemble that you feel gorgeous.

Scenario No. 3: Budget conflicts. It is really, really easy to spend a huge sum of money on a wedding in the blink of an eye. And yet, when your parents are paying for the wedding, they will likely have in mind what they consider to be a reasonable budget. This is one dispute that has to go to the parents. Even if you think that your parents’ idea of what a wedding should cost is hopelessly outdated, you cannot in fairness ask them to spend more than they can afford. Your best bet is to find a way to work within their budget or to make up the shortfall with your own money if you can.

With these tips in mind, you should be able to handle most wedding issues which crop up in a graceful manner.

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