Put the “We” Into Your Wedding!

It often seems like a wedding is something planned by the bride and her mother, with no input from the groom. While it is true that many men are happy to leave most of the details up to the bride, do not cut them out of the planning. It is important to put the “we” into your wedding.

The first step to putting the “we” into your wedding is to acknowledge that while the bride may take center stage, it is the groom’s day also. Involve him in the planning process right from the beginning. It is true that not every guy cares about the minutia of a wedding, but most of them will have opinions on the bigger decisions, if only someone takes the time to ask them.

Figure out your fiance’s interest level, and then involve him in any choices that you think will interest him. For instance, he may not need to be in on the choice of the which bridal jewelry sets the bride should consider (unless of course, he is shopping for sets of bridal jewelry as a wedding gift to the bride). The ladies’ outfits and accessories are the type of thing that most guys would just as soon not take part in selecting.

There are a few areas of the wedding plans that almost every man would like a say in. They are the venue, the food (especially the cake!), and the music. A good way to include the groom without overwhelming him is to do the preliminary research yourself, and then bring him in for the final decision. Even grooms who are content to leave all of the decisions up to the bride should still be consulted from time to time to make him feel like he is a part of the wedding.

One of the best ways to put the “we” into your wedding is also one of the easiest. When you discuss the wedding in front of your fiance, simply make sure to refer to “our wedding” instead of “my wedding”. Sometimes it is the smallest gestures that make the biggest impact, and you want your fiance to know that you consider him to be an important part of the wedding.

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