When Your Family Disapproves of Your Fiance

There can be any number of reasons why a bride’s family may wish that she would make a different choice for her husband. It may be that they want her to marry someone from within their religious faith, or a man in a certain profession, like a doctor. They could be concerned about whether the young man will adequately be able to provide for a family. Whatever the reason, the bride should try to figure it out, so that she can begin to tackle the problem.

You know your family best, so you should be able to decide whether it is better to try to soften up your mother or father first. It is often the case that a bride’s parents will be able to overcome their initial opposition once they get to know more about her fiance. Maybe the groom and the bride’s dad should go to a baseball game together. Try to find common interests that will help to mitigate whatever it is that your parents are uncertain about.

If the best route to family harmony runs through the bride’s mother, perhaps the groom could approach her for help in selecting a special piece of wedding jewelry as a surprise gift for the bride. Chance are that her mother will be delighted to be asked her opinion, and the wedding jewelry will be a good way for the fiance to show her mother just how well he intends to treat her daughter. Every mother wants to see her daughter being treated like a princess.

There will be cases when the bride’s family will not change their minds no matter what. In that situation, all that you can do is tell them that you wish they felt differently, and hope that they will attend the wedding anyway.

When it comes time to plan the wedding, the bride may be happier if she leans on a more supportive friend or aunt for help instead of a disapproving mother. In the end, the bride and groom have to make their own happiness as they start their new life together.

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