Should You Pick Your Own Engagement Ring?

Should you pick your own engagement ring or is it better to be surprised? This is a look at the pros and cons.

Pro: When the woman helps to pick her own engagement ring, she is absolutely sure to love it. And that is really important, because along with her wedding ring, this is the one piece of jewelry which she will wear every day for the rest of her life. It would be a shame if she secretly disliked the style of the ring for all those years (because of course she would never say so!).

Con: Obviously if the couple has been engagement ring shopping, the woman will have advance knowledge that her boyfriend intends to propose. Or he can go the route of a surprise proposal without a ring, and then the newly engaged couple can go wedding jewelry shopping together. In that case, though, you lose that iconic moment when he drops to one knee and pulls out a tiny box while popping the question.

Pro: It can be less stressful for the man if his fiance is involved with the ring selection. Many man just plain hate shopping, and the idea of shopping for something so expensive without any input from the woman who will be wearing it can be positively nerve-wracking. Will he wonder forever if she truly loves the ring or is just pretending so as not to hurt his feelings?

Con: Sticking to a tight budget might be more challenging with the bride-to-be in tow. Some women can’t help but gravitate to the biggest, most fabulous engagement ring in the store! Saying no to her favorite is a really awkward position for a man to find himself in, and not the least bit romantic. On the other hand, splurging on a ring which is way out of his comfortable price range will not leave the man feeling so great, either.

In the end, each couple is unique, and it is up to them to decide if these practical concerns are worth losing the element of surprise at the moment of engagement.

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